#RockOnRay Raymond Fasani is my 46-year-old brother-in-law diagnosed with stage 4 non-small-cell lung cancer, metastasized to the brain, bones, adrenal glands, and lymph nodes. Please, help share his story. Family and friends are attempting to raise money, through a variety of efforts, to help lengthen and maintain his quality of health and life.
Benefit concert tonight! Proceeds will go to Carl Davis and Ray Fasani.
Connelly’s Sports Bar & Grill 10045 Belvedere Rd, Royal Palm Beach, Fl 33411
In addition to great bands – There will be some awesome raffle prizes! Skid Row donated an autographed drum head from a recent performance! You’ll have to come out and buy a ticket so you can be entered to win!!!
Special Guest Performer, guitarist, Adam Phillips of Pro-Pain.
The tumors in Ray’s brain have affected his coordination and vision. Due to the safety concerns doctor’s have restricted him from driving.
And if the inability to drive wasn’t enough, walking has also become quite challenging. The issues with his site and coordination often cause him to be unsteady or lose his balance. It can also cause confusion.
The metastasis to his bones causes him severe pain which is worse with movement. Also of concern for Ray, with cancer that has spread to his bones, cancer cells replace normal bone tissue, weakening them so that they are more likely to break. He can experience a break or fracture by just doing day-to-day activities.
Most of us find it awkward and uncomfortable to ask family, friends or strangers for help. We have motor vehicles, bicycles and our two feet we can depend on to get around. Imagine if your health forced you to be dependent on others?
What if you wanted to see a friend, grab a six pack, catch a sale, get a hair cut, get groceries, or just go sit at the park, all within a few blocks of your home, but to do it, you had to ask someone to take you. You required someone’s permission, by telling you ‘ok, I’ll come and get you’, which obliged you to be flexible with that person’s plans. Regardless of the offer of gas money or barter, those persons rarely consider you in control.
Now that you have your “free” ride, you’re sitting at your friend’s house, waiting for their kids to come home from school. You feel fine. Moments later you are hit by a tsunami of nausea and you just want to go home and lay down. You can’t get up and leave. You must wait for your friend’s kids to come home. Sucks, doesn’t it?
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Thank you to, Jessica Laurain Beegle, for creating a Go Fund Me campaign for Ray.
For those awesome people who would like to donate and help with his medical expenses and care, simply click on the #RockOnRay – Cancer Battle.
The minimum amount that you can donate on GoFundMe is $5.00.
I’m sure that if you were talking to Ray on the street you’d want to sit down and have a cup of coffee with him on you. Of course, you’d have a cup yourself, right? Ray tells you, the steroids make him ravenous, and you offer to buy him something off the menu.
You’ve been hanging out, in deep conversation with your buddy, you wonder where the time has gone. You think about how many times you’ve sat at that table doing business or talking with friends and how you plan to come back again. Then you consider the same thing for Ray, and you wonder if he’ll ever be able to make it back to repeat what we’ve all taken for granted. The waitress was swift and courteous, you are definitely going to leave a tip.
Now, here you are, reading this. Maybe you don’t know Ray, or not very well, or live too far away to catch up in person; that’s ok, you can make a donation to his GoFundMe account and let him know you’re thinking of him and share a thought with him.
And, if you haven’t already, if you’re on facebook, Like and share #RockOnRay fan page.
Inspired by Ray’s friend’s posting the hashtag “RockOnRay” there was no better name suited for his fan page.
My sister, Melody, had asked me to create a facebook page for Ray, like I did for our mom and her nephew, Nick. I thought, ‘Really? You’re already talking about a memorial page?’ More often than not, people give me far more credit than I deserve, because that’s not at all what she meant, those were the two pages that she was most familiar with.
With the help of friend, Jessica Laurain Beegle, #RockOnRay facebook page is helping to get the word out about Ray’s diagnosis and progress to friends and supporters.
If you are reading this and are on facebook, please go and like the #RockOnRay fan page on Facebook.
Do you have $5 that you’re not thinking about? Donate it to Ray, there’s a lot of things he needs and that $5 will be much appreciated.
Raymond Fasani is my 46-year-old brother-in-law. The morning of Sunday, April 30, 2017, my sister, Melody, called me to tell me that they were on their way home. They had been looking forward to going to Bonita Springs, FL, where he was performing, as a drummer, with his band, Witch’s Mark at the Summerland Festival.
Melody told me that Ray wasn’t able to perform, his head was hurting him, he was nauseous, having difficulty walking, his coordination was off and as soon as they got back home she was taking him to the hospital.
The Wednesday before, Ray, my sister and I had gone to the park for the Food Truck invasion. Looking back, Ray had appeared to be a bit unsteady, he walked and talked like he was sleep walking. I was concerned when he began to drive and in less than half a block he had almost gotten into 3 accidents. He put the vehicle in park and asked Melody to drive.
While we were worried and suggested to Ray he should go to the ER, like most of us, he discounted the symptoms and insisted that it was nothing food and rest wouldn’t cure. Little did we know that in a few days reality would slap us in the face that nothing was going to cure what was manifesting his body.
So, a few hours later they arrived home from the festival. Melody called an ambulance, Ray was taken to the emergency room, where he was diagnosed with metastatic brain tumors. He was admitted to the hospital for a few days and by the time he was released he had a diagnosis of stage IV lung cancer which has spread to his brain, lymph nodes, adrenal glands and bones (invasive adenocarcinoma with fairly extensive tumoral necrosis).